As a guy, I hear a lot of guy talk. I have listened to it my whole life. Some guy talk is childish but not damaging. Some guy talk, on the other hand, is disgusting. I won’t make the generalization and say that men have suddenly started acting misogynistic and that men did not behave this way before. It would be stupid of me to say that. As a historian, I have read enough history to know that men have always acted in “macho” ways since the fall.
What real men need to do is go to the Bible. Men bow before God. boys play with toys, women, and their egos.
Brandon foster
I am also not going to talk about “toxic” masculinity. This term has lost all meaning. It is now a general term inserted into any conversation to mean some ambiguous characteristic of men that the individual does not like. Instead, I want to discuss what I will call “machoism.” Machoism summarizes the traits that men exhibit that are crappy. They include, but are not limited to, extreme individualism, misogyny, laziness, looking down on “weak” men, etc.
To kick things off I found the tweet below which I think starts this conversation well.
This statement is false, misogynistic, and just stupid. These men make me so frustrated. They are so insecure about their masculinity that they have to crush everyone around them. They cannot stand on their own accomplishments, so they push down everyone else until they are standing tall. They are childish, weak, and mean.
Men do inherently care for those around them. Males do not. This is the second point that annoys me. To many males think that once they start growing hair they are “men.” To quote Dwight from the Office , that is “false.” Becoming a man is a process, and an achievement. Not all males are men. In fact, I would argue that most aren’t. They are boys in grown up bodies parading around deceiving as many people as possible into thinking that they are men.
The man writing this tweet is obviously a boy. He thinks that men are superior to women. This is why he think that males, when they become rich, will automatically take care of their woman. I can’t count how many rich men treat the people around them like trash. The amount of movies depicting this very thing is staggering.
Not all women support their families when they become rich, but not all rich women think that they no longer need a man either. Both statements in this tweet are wrong. The fact that there are dozens, even hundreds of these accounts, makes me very frustrated. How much vile is being spewed by these boys?
What real men need to do is go to the Bible. Men bow before God. boys play with toys, women, and their egos.
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